mothers day

Always a difficult day for me as I remember what I could have been if my baby had continued to grow and our family had started. I do celebrate my mother and all the blessings she has poured on me. But there is something about mothers day that leaves me hollow.

On mother's day we were visiting another church. The pastor prior to his sermon gave his mothers day thankyou and asked for all the mothers in the church to stand. I sat there awkwardly not sure what to do. Looking around thinking am I the only one who feels torn apart at this gesture. I felt for those who had lost their mothers, who burried their child, who lost an unborn child, who were battling infertility, who were single and longing to be married and start a family, or a mother of an unplanned pregnancy.

I came home and on facebook someone posted a link to a blog post regarding church on mothers day. It really hit me and I completely agree with what she suggests and her feelings. Exactly my feelings that morning.

I leave you with her conclusion.

- To those who gave birth this year to their first child—we celebrate with you

those who lost a child this year – we mourn with you

- To those who are in the trenches with little ones every day and wear the badge of food stains – we appreciate you

- To those who experienced loss through miscarriage, failed adoptions, or running away—we mourn with you

- To those who walk the hard path of infertility, fraught with pokes, prods, tears, and disappointment – we walk with you. Forgive us when we say foolish things. We don’t mean to make this harder than it is.

- To those who are foster moms, mentor moms, and spiritual moms – we need you

- To those who have warm and close relationships with your children – we celebrate with you

- To those who have disappointment, heart ache, and distance with your children – we sit with you

- To those who lost their mothers this year – we grieve with you

- To those who experienced abuse at the hands of your own mother – we acknowledge your experience

- To those who lived through driving tests, medical tests, and the overall testing of motherhood – we are better for having you in our midst

- To those who have aborted children – we remember them and you on this day

- To those who are single and long to be married and mothering your own children – we mourn that life has not turned out the way you longed for it to be

- To those who step-parent – we walk with you on these complex paths

- To those who envisioned lavishing love on grandchildren -yet that dream is not to be, we grieve with you

- To those who will have emptier nests in the upcoming year – we grieve and rejoice with you

- To those who placed children up for adoption — we commend you for your selflessness and remember how you hold that child in your heart

- And to those who are pregnant with new life, both expected and surprising –we anticipate with you

This Mother’s Day, we walk with you. Mothering is not for the faint of heart and we have real warriors in our midst. We remember you.

Read the whole article here - http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/mothers-day-infertility-church/

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